Anonymous said: a random question, how do you feel about lady and enby doms? by the way i totally agree w/ what you said about male doms, you cant help but question their motives behind their kinks
While I think anybody can abuse their power, that’s not really what I’m talking about.
I literally only have a problem with white cishet dude doms. I find their kinking out on their own patriarchal power gross and questionable in almost EVERY WAY. There is nothing radical about upholding your position of power and privilege.
Be VERY SUSPICIOUS of white cishet doms who hide behind “No KINKSHAMING!” rhetoric while posting porn with degrading, dehumanizing, racist shit about women. These are not doms, these are misogynists. There is never any discussion of aftercare, support, consent or discussed boundaries on their pages. Never any real shop talk about being responsible for a Sub and their needs and their safety/comfort/trust. EVER. Some dude once tried to tell me that “Well, that’s not the hot part, we just want to post the sexy part!” and just lollll, fuck you, then. If that is really what you think, you’re not a Dom, you’re just a fucking misogynistic sadist.
Like, not fucking every Dom and sub is even into degradation and dehumanizing language like that, but isn’t it INTERESTING that that’s what a majority of daddydom porn tumblrs are all into??? HOW STRANGE!
Don’t let misogynists hide in the D/s community. Flush that shit out.
Be VERY LEERY of white cishet Doms who have never wanted to be subs and consider their roles normal or the way it should be.